People either decide to change or are changed by force, no news there.
What’s worrying is the mindset.
Those who don’t choose change have old mindsets. Mindsets that don’t work.
When change comes by force, it comes fast. It’s a phone call, a headline, a talk to your boss or girlfriend. There’s no time for any adaptability of the mind.
The result is people trying to reject change by acting the way they shouldn’t.
This is why you see mothers and fathers partying and drinking as if they were still young and single, or people commiting suicide when they are fired, dumped or stressed. These are people hanging on to their previous way of thinking.
The sad news is the world doesn’t care about what you think. What you do is all that matters.
The few that love change and decide to do it, go through a process. They choose and embrace the new mindset that works with that change. They think about the consequences.
This is probably the most important reason to seek change:
Because if you are not ready you’ll hurt yourself and others.
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Another great one, Carlos. Since you highlighted “They think about the consequences,” you got me thinking… I wonder if we thought about all the consequences before quitting our job and heading to Vermont for a new life? Hmm… too late now, I guess; so we’ll just say that we did.
I’m sure you did. Moving is always a thought decision.
“The choose and embrace the new mindset that works with that change.”
Most huge changes I’ve been faced with have more than one way of viewing them, and usually it is one perspective that makes the change seem terrifying and impossible to cope with. When I acknowledge that there are other perspectives that, despite how I may have been raised, are every bit as legitimate (because we’re all sort of making this up as we go along), most changes start to seem rational. Most of them start to blend in with my life, making it a lot more colorful and a lot more fun.
What’s that way overused quote by Darwin? Something about survival of the fittest isn’t necessarily about being bigger, faster, stronger; far more frequently it’s been a matter of being more adaptable to change.
Ah, I love this point. It’s basically the good old “look at the bright side.” And yeah, adaptability wins everytime.